Sadly, homophobia within the Black community does not come
solely from our stubborn heterosexual counterparts. In actuality,
the fiercest homophobic attacks we receive actually come from
the fiery and evil hands of our very own gay/lesbian brothers
Identical to how the fight for equality allowing women the
right to vote was vehemently opposed by many women; the same
can be said of the 1960's civil rights movement where Dr.
Martin Luther King's biggest opposition actually came from
other Black clergy. Now today, the same comparison can be
said of the gay/lesbian civil rights struggle, especially
within the Black community.
Many of the loudest and most fiery anti-gay preachers, pastors,
bishops, and ministers are indeed gay/lesbian themselves.
Many gospel artists, past and present who preach anti-gay
sermons in the midst of their singing performances are indeed
gay/lesbian. In fact across all spectrums of society regardless
of ethnicity, socioeconomic status, or nationality; it is
often the one that cries the loudest and the longest that
always has something to hide.
When one hates another person, they often see in that person
what they see in themselves and desire not to be. Internalized
homophobia is the new "cancer" killing the Black community.
It takes a racial minority, then subdivides it and causes
the two factions to war, hurt, and destroy one another.
The result? The DL phenomenon which is now being blamed by
the media for the increase of HIV/AIDS in the black community
is one example. The creation of unfulfilling heterosexual
marriages along with STDs creeping into the bedroom with innocent
children caught in the middle is yet another result.
Drug and alcohol abuse, sexual promiscuity, depression and
suicide among gays/lesbians are all the results of internalized
homophobia as well. When a person feels unworthy, despises
him/herself, and allows the world's perception to dictate
their footsteps and place in society, what results is a miserable
life existence for each of them.
In coming to terms with your sexual orientation and discovering
your life's definition and purpose, you must first pray to
God in humble submission taking all of your previous knowledge
and understandings of what you think you know to be true,
along with your personal desires, emotions, and opinions completely
out of the mix and instead allow the Holy Spirit to move within
you to filter, accept and reject what is best for you and
your life. You must do this seriously and truly seek to hear
God's clear voice, and not the voice of yourself or of Satan.
You must be willing to yield to God's will and be willing
to accept whatever he is calling of you or is directing you
to do. Once you hear God's clear and distinct voice, then
you must pursue it without fail, despite what family, friends,
clergy have to say. Remember, your salvation and relationship
is one that is between you and God. It does not include others.
As Gay/Lesbian Christians, we must mediate upon the following
"And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed
by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is good,
and acceptable, and perfect will of God (Romans 12:2)." We
CANNOT allow the thoughts, opinions, and perceptions of others
to conform us and become our reality. Instead our growth in
God must become our reality, not what the pastor/bishop thinks
You are NOT a fag, sissy, punk, carpet licker, bull dagger,
panty waste or pervert. You are not a rebellious menace to
society. You are not a wicked, malicious virus of mankind.
You are NOT worthy of death, disease and eternal pain and
suffering. You are instead a beautiful creation of God. You
were made by a God who knows every dimension about you in
his own image. Please take time to meditate upon the following
"Thou knowest my downsitting and mine uprising, thou understandest
my thought afar off. … and art acquainted with all my ways.
For there is not a word in my tongue, but, lo, O Lord, thou
knowest it altogether. Thou hast beset me behind and before,
and laid thine hand upon me." Psalm 139:1-5
"…so God created man in his own image." Genesis 1:27
"For in him we live, and move, and have our being…" Acts
"But the very hairs of your head are all numbered." Matthew
Our existence as gays/lesbians is by intricate and very deliberate
and detailed design, and not by genetic accident. We are not
freaks of nature, nor are we to hold our heads down in shame,
denial or self-loathing.
As Gay/Lesbian Christians, we ARE worthy to inherit the Kingdom.
We ARE capable of living fulfilling, joyful lives. We ARE
saved by grace though faith. We ARE God's workmanship created
in Christ (Ephesians 2:10). So if God created us in Christ,
then what right, power, or enforcement does any human being
on earth have to tell us otherwise???
For us to grow spiritually and socially as Gay/Lesbian Christians
we must first change our internal mindsets, self-image, and
feelings of unworthiness in order to truly transcend the "world"
view of our sexual orientation and instead accept God's view,
acceptance and love of us in our spiritual relationship with
In short, we must renew our minds. We must break the emotional
strong holds of guilt, shame, fear, denial, depression, self-loathing
and unworthiness and instead pray to God to bring all of those
ill thoughts into captivity and to the obedience of Christ
(2 Corinthians 10:5). When all of these strong holds are caught
and brought into obedience, only then will we grow, soar,
and reach new heights within God.